A Woman Unto Herself

Most of us spend our lives looking for love in all the wrong places. In Tina M Benson, M.A.’s psycho-spiritual-erotic memoir, A Woman Unto Herself: A Different Kind of Love Story, she tells the true story of one woman’s misguided attempts to find love. Overcoming betrayal and heartbreak, author and life coach Tina Benson reveals how she found the sacred love and ecstatic intimacy she’d searched for all her life. Anyone who has ever felt the sting of love’s disappointments and failures…who has tried and failed to find someone “out there” to make them whole…who has ever tasted the ecstasy of love or felt the stirrings of a Beloved waiting inside their own heart, and wants to ignite that spiritual fire…will discover keys to the “inner kingdom” within these pages.

Breaking with convention, A Woman Unto Herself shows how longing illuminates the way to our deepest Self. Like few other writers, Ms. Benson’s willingness to expose the depths of her own sexual and spiritual desire shows us that we, too, can celebrate our deepest yearnings as a path to the Divine. With raw and revealing honesty, she shows how longing, pain, and suffering crack us open, offering healing and awakening.

From teen sex, drugs, and wild parties…to the depths and heights of spiritual awakening…from Hollywood jet-setting to pilgrimages and retreats in India and Hawaii, Ms. Benson’s story takes us through desire, heartbreak, and despair to the peace and love that lie beyond. Her take-away message will inspire women and men alike: “You can survive your soul’s darkest night” – and if you can bear the depths of your longing, the light will shine through the cracks, leading you home.

Finding the Inner Beloved starts with silence, by taking comfort in being alone, and by fueling the fires of our longing. Ecstatic intimacy begins by finding the Beloved inside your own heart.

In our culture today, we are bombarded with messages that happiness and completeness come from another. From Jerry Maguire’s, “You complete me,” to every love song, poem, movie, and fairytale, the prevailing belief is that we are not whole without an outer lover. A Woman Unto Herself: A Different Kind of Love Story challenges all of the current cultural myths, making a compelling argument that wholeness is an “inside job.” Through the story of her own journey, Ms. Benson shows readers how to make the turn inward to cultivate an ecstatic relationship with the Inner Beloved. A Woman Unto Herself inspires men and women to free themselves and their lovers from the tyranny of expecting or demanding the other to provide sacred love for them, by showing how it is possible to achieve a wholly satisfactory and nurturing “inner marriage” – a holy, sacred, blissful love affair that complements and intensifies the ecstasy of an outer beloved.
Courageously documenting her own spiritual and sexual journey through longing, heartbreak and despair, Ms. Benson inspires readers to persevere through their own dark nights of the soul, illuminating the way home to an ecstatic love inside.